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Move on and don't be surprised when you see her with someone else before long. If I'm dating you, I'm assuming it is heading towards a relationship so I'm not dating other people. I'm already acting like you're my girlfriend. AskMen has done the research and come up with a helpful list, AskMen's relationship correspondent Madeline Murphy provides a We tally up the winners and losers in Ask Men's inane article to see who, in this gender war baiting piece, comes out on top. "I'm just not ready for a boyfriend right now.
Here are the top 10 questions that can help gauge a relationship mindset: To what are you committed or dedicated? Dedication is extremely important for sustaining passion, addressing conflict and overall success in a long-term relationship.
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Is she more focused on materialistic and superficial concerns, or is she looking ahead with dedication to her career and family? What makes you feel or perceive love in a relationship? The overall ability to feel love is important when cultivating and sustaining a relationship. Compatible people also tend to perceive and express love similarly.
How she makes you feel and whether she has the relationship experience and maturity to grow with you will indicate if you are like-minded in love. What turns you on? Sexual compatibility is often overlooked but very important for a satisfying relationship.
Turn-ons can also indicate sexual expectations. When have you been the happiest? When have you been the most depressed? Then we hooked up. At some point not long after, she asked, "So am I your girlfriend now? The vibe is a bit different between us now, as though we are actually dating. We met up a couple of times during the week in the company of friends, both of us behaving like we were "together," but without hooking up again.
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She eventually said she wanted to talk. Essentially, she broke up with me because she isn't ready to be in a relationship and was happy finally improving herself and wanted to be able to not need someone around. I respected her decision, and recognized that we both sort of "fell into" a relationship without discussing it. We decided to stay friends.
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I was okay with this at first, but as time passed, I became more upset. Despite the fact that we don't have much in common, I want to be with her. And I can't stop thinking about her. I decided I should probably let it drop and not contact her, but she texted me a couple of days after we split up, and since then we've been chatting back and forth.
I guess I still want to be with her, even though I know it's impossible. Should I keep trying to be "friends" or get on with my life?
Your answer that night was "Yeah, I'd like that," which is about as vague a response as you can give. And then the next morning you failed to broach the subject, while at the same time feeling uncertain about the actual status of your relationship. You can't wait for the other person to bring up a difficult subject. The fact that they're silent on a matter — such as a late-night post-coital decision to strike up a monogamous relationship despite barely knowing each other — isn't a sign that everything is A-OK.
If, in the pursuit of True Love, you find yourself floundering over questions such as "Are we actually dating? These questions aren't difficult because they're especially complex, but because young, romantically entangled people tend to exist as thin, alluring shells of confidence wrapped around mushy, insecure innards.
You have to crack the shell, and that's tough. You had the morning after and one week following during which you could have raised the issue.
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It's possible she really didn't want to get into a relationship, and it took a week before she built up the chutzpah to tell you. It's also possible that there was potential for a relationship to develop, but the situation was sticky. Like she asked, "Am I your girlfriend now? If the two of you had sat down and talked about it, maybe you could have navigated a way forward: Started seeing each other on a more casual basis before attaching a label, or else arranged some one-on-one dates away from the distraction of mutual friends and the let's-see-how-much-alcohol-we-can-consume party mentality.
But you kept quiet.